Many a woman who feels herself a ballsy broad in her daily life finds herself in bed, afraid to say “Please do a little more of this” or “Don’t do that” for fear of confronting a man looking shocked, upset, or disappointed. Ladies know they should get over it already. They know that speaking up and taking the initial hit will result in lip-biting orgasm the next time they get down to it. It’s a classic case of cruel to be kind – the girl gets better sex, and the boy will hopefully take the pointers on board. In the meantime, however, there’s a number of things women are thinking about sex that tend to go unsaid, but you men should probably know them anyway.
1. Porn
Just because you saw it in a porn doesn’t mean women will like it. Most $ex in porn is actually not fun for women. Porn focuses on genital stimulation and good $ex is about whole body experiences.
2. Endurance
Generally speaking, endurance is over rated. Just because women want the love-making to last longer than 60 seconds doesn’t mean they want it to go on for hours. Find a happy medium. The vagina’s ability to self lubricate doesn’t go on forever. So pay attention to her and never outstay your welcome.
3. Knowledge
Most women actually know what will bring them to orgasm. So when you are trying this or trying that and nothing is working it’s more likely that she doesn’t want to tell you than that she doesn’t know. Open up ladies, a little helping hand on your part can make everyone a winner. Boys know you’ve had practice achieving an orgasm with masturbation, so developing good communication is crucial so that she feels comfortable telling you.
4. Reaching the finish line
Some women have a hard time achieving orgasm so for them, getting there is more trouble than it’s worth. That doesn’t mean they don’t want to have a go, but it means that the orgasm will not be the grand climax of the show. But it’s ok, it doesn’t mean they’re not having a great time.
5. Sensitivity
Women’s bodies are very sensitive when aroused so err on the gentle side. In this case, less is more. Communication is also key so that if she wants you to do something harder or rougher then she should let you know.
Every woman is different, and even with these most general of guidelines, you’ll find rejectionists. Communication between partners is the ideal. But have some sympathy on women who haven’t read enough self-help books or seen enough therapists to overcome their fear of speaking up. You might find that having patience and understanding will make it easier to draw them out over the long run. To encourage more communication, don’t make faces or act like your ego is hurt when women do push themselves to speak up. It likely took a lot of courage to do so in the first place. And always remember that whatever they say is valuable feedback.
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